Making sense of what your child is trying to tell you
While the child grows from a newborn to a more active baby until the 6th month, he will be more capable of telling the parent when something is upsetting or pleasing him. When a parent walks into the room, the child might give a bright smile, or frown and cry when his favorite plaything is taken away from him. Moreover, it is noticeable that he can switch moods fast.
Babies are so unpredictable when it comes to their emotions because the cerebral cortex, responsible for automatic responses, is not very functional yet. While the cerebral cortex evolves, the child will have greater control over his emotions. If you feel like you baby is crying more than he is smiling, this may be because babies take in discomfort earlier than joy. Sad faces and crying appear for a reason, they are the babies SOS that is intended for the caretaker to take an action and fix the thing that is wrong. But how do you know the reasons for your babies cry, does he need food, is something painful or is he plainly bored? A sensitive parent can see the difference between the cries and expressions of the baby.
The child uses the mouth, the eyebrows and the vocal system to signal distress or happiness, the position of any of these can be crucial to determining what is wrong .As an example, a physically distressed baby would cry with a frowned face, mouth and eyebrows, but when he is angry the baby’s face changes to red hot, his eyebrows come together, he presses his teeth hard and screams hardly. Almost all mothers and parents can see that a very emotionally unstable and an easy to upset baby is not good company, but what most parents don’t see is that anger is just a way to let out too much distress. For example if there is a loud sound near the baby or bright light shining right at him the baby can show signals of distress. If that impulse of light or sound does not stop or increases, the distress transforms into anger.
However, we shouldn’t look too deep into the baby’s moods because the baby’s emotions and feelings can come from a different source that the environment he is currently in. Like for example the youngest babies do not quite fell happiness when they have a happy face on, but also they are not that aware of their emotions when they are crying loudly either. This is because the parts of the brain of a baby which are the “cortical emotion centers” do not begin functioning till the age of 6 to 8 months, right then he can start to actually take in and fell the things, he so strongly shows on his face. Still your baby might probably have his own ways of telling you that something is not satisfying. Some of the babies cry when something is wrong but other cling.
When the temperament of your child becomes clearer to you, you will be able to better receive and recognize the signals your child is sending you, and better understand what might be wrong.
Make yourself and your baby happy
Even if a tasteful applesauce mixture or a beautiful crib mobile brings a happy face and a smile, the thing that can make your child feel the most joy is simpler and less costly, it is simply YOU. That is the first step to a happy baby and kid later on. Make connections with your baby, play with him, if you are happy and having fun, the baby is having fun too. If you can provide a childhood where the child regularly spends time with his parent and has a connection with him, this is one of the best ways to make sure that the baby will be joyful. Playing with your child may create happiness, but also with this, the child also creates and learns skills needed for joy in the future. While the child grows, playing lets him see what he likes to do – building large houses with blocks, draw colorful drawings, making mixtures with different ingredients from the bathroom or kitchen-any of these if not all may show what she would like to do for the rest of his life.
Teach your baby new valuable skills
A recipe for making a happiness that can last a lifetime has a very interesting twist: Happy people are usually the ones that have learned a new skill. A simple example is , the time he takes his first solemn bite with a spoon or makes his first step alone with no help, he learns from his mistakes, he learns that when you do not give up and keep going you can enjoy that happiness brought by reaching our aim with our own efforts and also receives the reward, much searched by all men, of people recognizing his accomplishment . In addition, one of the most important things, he finds that he can control his life in some way. If he keeps trying, he will succeed and reach his goal. Exactly this feeling that he feels right now-the feeling of control through mastery- is a very important thing in receiving happiness in his adult years. However, a fair warning to give is that children, just like adults, must exercise activities that they are interested in, and only then, they will receive happiness in their accomplishments and enjoy their success.
Give your baby good habits
A good diet, exercising, and plenty of sleep are essential for every human beings health, specifically for the children’s wellbeing. Letting the child let out their excess energy, if it is by crawling to a favored toy, throwing her legs up to the sky, or just circling around repeatedly, will help her be in a better mood and feel better. But look out for your child’s demand for a repeating structured schedule. Even if a few babies are relaxed and tolerant, almost all want and are less nervous when they have a structured day with a schedule. In addition, you should watch out if there is something connected between the food you are feeding him and the mood he is in. Sugar can give a great boost to some babies energy, but can also make them more fussy. A must is to watch out for any allergies the child might have, they can also play a role in determining how your baby feels and acts. If you are the parent who is nursing, you can sometimes find that the child turns more jumpy when you eat some type of foods. Talk to a professional if you have any suspicions that the diet or formula you are using is connected to any distress caused to your child.
Let the baby cope with it
The primal 6 months of a child’s life are very vital and it is important in these months to fill your child’s needs. It is impossible to spoil an infant, but at around the 6th month, if you try to fix everything and make things perfect, you will be skipping a very essential learning opportunity. Sometimes it is good to let a baby cry for a while if you give him a lot of attention and positive affection afterwards. You might think, that is your obligation to rise a joyful child and you are supposed to go and fix everything that might pose a problem in the baby’s life. Well this way of thinking is a common mistake that almost all parents who love and care for their baby too much make. These parents always try to fix every little problem the child might have, so that they can make the child always happy. There is no reality in that. Do not always try to make it better.
The child needs to learn to cope with distress and sadness. Let the children try to find a way to fix it on their own, it helps them find a way to deal with a problem. In the first year, the child accomplishes and learns how to do so many new things: to crawl, sit up, grasp objects, talk, and walk. Every success gives him pride and the confidence to try new things, so do not try to help the child when he drops his bottle or favorite toy and tries to pick it up, give him some space and time, and also motivate him to take it by himself. Allowing your child to take in different kind of experiences even the most hard and unpleasant ones, will help the child to build a mechanism and way of thinking which will take him to joy in the future. There is no difference if the child is at the age of 7 months and trying to walk, or at the age of 7 years and trying to deal with a frustrating subject at school. As much as the child succeeds in solving problems, better he will get at dealing with them- practice makes him more successful.