Seeing children, throwing a tantrum, breaking expensive china, throwing things from the table and cupboard, would make most people that haven’t had the chance to have children yet think “If they were my children, I would teach them different!”.
But this thought changes once their home is enlightened and their beloved little angel is born as cute, harmless and careless as it can be. Then the time comes when their bundle of joy starts to crawl, walk, when it starts to cry out loud and scream for every little thing he can’t have, starts throwing tantrums because his parents are not letting him to become a brat.
This is acknowledged, even by pediatricians, as a great challenge in parenthood. They advise to monitor your chid behavior very closely at all times, because our love sometimes makes us to weak or permissive in our effort to give your loved one a happy, careless childhood and some warning signs can easily be overlooked by the parents.
First signs of delays in the development of your child
During the second, third or fourth week of the baby’s life you need to look out for any signs of delays in his development. If the baby does not blink under strong light, does not follow the nearest moving object with his eyes, if he doesn’t react to loud sounds, eats slowly or has a weak pull when sucking , if his arms and legs seem lose or if he rarely moves his limbs and they seem stiff, this can be a sign of problems with the child’s development, and you should consult a professional on this matter.
Duration of breast feeding
It should normally last a from 10 to 30 minutes per breast. It is defined by the baby and his rate of sucking. When he lets go of one breast offer him the next one, do this till he stops sucking. Every baby has a different pattern for breast feeding, an exact duration should not be defined, maybe sometimes the baby will take more time with it, or sometimes he can be quicker, you should not limit the baby with time. Bad hygiene, creams and lotions for breasts can cause a problem for the baby.
Biggest mistakes in parenting
If you don’t deny him anything from a small age, give him everything he wants especially when it cries, screams or throws tantrums, he will grow up thinking that he has the right to everything and everybody owes him everything. Do not defend him in school and try to protect him in front of the teachers and neighbors. Don’t react harshly when someone says something about your child in a friendly way, he or she is maybe trying to help you. Laughing when he says a bad words, will make him think it is smart to swear and encourage him to use these words more often in public. If you pick up his toys after him, it will make him think that his mother is his slave and nothing is his responsibility. Don’t fight and argue as a couple in front of the baby, it will make him think that it’s normal to behave like that in his marriage.
Don’t avoid introducing a religion into your child’s life, it’s his choice whether he will decide to become a believer or not and he will make that decision when he grows up.
These are the most common mistakes that parents make. Don’t be too permissive, but also look out for you actions around the child, so that the child can mimic your behavior and develops good manners and good social behavior.
Controlled crying means that the baby is ready for sleep and it should be put in bed and left alone. Let the baby cry every night, more and more. Pediatricians say that you should not touch him, because with this you will give him the idea that you will take him in your arms and in that way you’re encouraging him to cry even more and making it harder for him to soothe himself.
The advice from pediatricians for babies younger than a year is different, you shouldn’t use this method to make the baby fall asleep. But when he is older and it’s time to learn to fall asleep on his own you might start using this metod. Do all the things you do with him before bed, hug him, feed him say your goodnights, then leave the room. Let him cry for 5 minutes, then enter and say something nice to him and leave. Wait 10 minutes, then do this again. Then check on him every 15 minutes. The first night the baby will cry a lot, but every night it will cry less and less and after one week the crying stops in most of the babies.
Talking and listening are the best ways to help the baby in the development of his speech. Talk to him directly, use key words that are recognizable to the child, so that you can tech the child that some words appear in sentences more than others.
The baby’s name is one of the meaningful key words. Talk to him about the objects that are around him, so that he can connect the object with the word. Use many movements and face expressions.
Have an understanding for your child. He can’t say the word right away because that ability is not developed yet. The unrecognizable word that he will utter with a big smile on his face is the best that he can do right now and you should be happy with it.